Dating in your 20s gets more serious than butterflies and chemistry. Here are 12 things nobody tells you about paying attention, compatibility and choosing a partner.

Sex & Relationships

12 Things Nobody Tells You About Dating In Your 20s

Do you apologise first, go quiet, keep score or pretend nothing happened? Take this quiz to find out what your behaviour after a fight with your partner reveals about you.

What Do You Actually Do After A Fight With Your Partner?

Think he likes you but something feels off? Here are the signs a man may be keeping you around without actually intending to commit.

The Nigerian Woman’s Guide To Knowing When A Man Is Wasting Her Time 


Trying to plan a date without overthinking it? Here’s why the cinema might save your wallet and your conversation.

If You Don’t Know Where To Take Her, Take Her To The Cinema


If you talk every day, sleep over, exchange gifts and make future plans, we have news for you: you’re probably in a relationship.

If You're Doing These Things, Congratulations, You're In A Relationship

How much does it really cost to have a boyfriend or girlfriend in Nigeria? We did the maths, from Valentine’s Day to random transfers and everything in between. 

Dating In Nigeria Is Actually Expensive AF. Here’s The Full Breakdown 

Are you in love with who they are or who you hope they’ll become? Here are 20 signs you’re dating their potential, not the person in front of you.



20 Signs You’re in Love With Their Potential, Not Them

My mother told me early that all men cheat, and for years, I thought she was preparing me for reality. I didn't realise she was also teaching me what I should be willing to tolerate. 

Confessions

Unlearning Everything My Mother Taught Me About Being A Good Woman Episode 3: "All Men Cheat"

My boyfriend's ex texted me out of nowhere to "warn" me about him. Months later, I still can't tell if she saved me or just wrecked my peace.

My Boyfriend's Ex Reached Out To 'Save' Me And I Don't Know If I Should Thank Her Or Block Her

I could tell him how I feel and risk changing everything, or keep the friendship I already have. So far, I've chosen him, even if it means loving him quietly.

I’m In Love With My Best Friend, But I’d Rather Keep Him

Think you know your chances of finding love? Take Aura’s quiz to discover what your answers reveal about your approach to love, dating, and relationships.


How Likely Are You to Find Love? Take Our Quiz to Find Out


We asked 10 Nigerians what their ex still has that nobody has come to collect. The answers are chaotic, specific, and more revealing than anyone planned.

An Investigation Into Things Nigerians Are Still Holding Onto From Their Exes.

Some couples fight about serious things. Others can turn the smallest, most ridiculous incident into a full-blown war. We asked couples to confess the pettiest fights they've ever had, and honestly, love is not for the weak.

We Asked Couples About The Dumbest Fights They've Ever Had

Some people block immediately. Some stalk their ex’s new girlfriend. Some pretend they’re fine until 2 a.m. Take this quiz to find out what your breakup behaviour says about the kind of ex you become.

What Kind Of Ex Are You?

Teni was finally ready to move on after a brutal breakup, so her friend convinced her to join a dating app. Everything was going fine until a few questions about her surname and family turned a promising match into a full-blown family meeting.

"I Matched With My Cousin On A Dating App": A Story About Small Lagos.

We asked 15 Nigerian couples the unwritten rules keeping their relationships running — some sweet, some petty, some pure comedy.

The Unwritten Rules Every Nigerian Couple Is Secretly Following

Love is real. Love is also not a pension plan, not a hospital bill, not school fees. One Nigerian woman on the impossible choice between the man she loved and the future she needed.

The Nigerian Relationship Ultimatum: Love Him Or Leave Him For Someone Who Can Afford Her Future


He loves you, shows up for you and does everything right, except talk about how he feels. Nigerian women explain what it’s like loving men who just won't let you in.

Why Won't He Just Talk To Me? Nigerian Women On The Emotional Walls Their Partners Can't Seem To Break Down

You talk every day. You show up for each other. You flirt "as a joke." You're fine. Sure. Take this quiz and say that again.

Are You Friends With Them Or Did You Just Never Get The Chance To Date Them?


Temi's ex was stable, God-fearing, and had everyone's approval, including her mother's. Then he told her about his "vision" for their marriage and she has never moved so fast in her life. She's telling the full story for the first time.

"I Almost Married The Wrong Person Because Everyone Told Me He Was Right"

Many Nigerians mistake jealousy, endless sacrifice, financial dependence, and other toxic behaviours for love. Here are five relationship myths it’s time to unlearn.

5 Things Nigerians Have Mistaken for Love for Far Too Long

Looking for affordable date ideas in Nigeria under ₦20,000? These 7 creative date ideas are more memorable than any restaurant and easier on your wallet than you think.

7 Date Ideas That Cost Less Than ₦20,000 (And Are Better Than Another Restaurant)

This is a series about the instructions African women were handed before they were old enough to question them, and what it actually costs to follow them. Episode 1 was about the broom. This one is about the ceiling.

Unlearning Every Single Thing My Mother Taught Me About Being A Good Woman
Episode 2: "Don't Be Too Ambitious. Men Find It Intimidating."


Everyone tells you to leave. Nobody tells you what actually happens when you stay. This is that story: the triggers, the loneliness, and the hope nobody warned you about.


"He Cheated. I Stayed": What Nobody Tells You About Choosing To Stay.

Everyone thinks they're over their ex until a specific situation proves otherwise. This quiz is ten of those situations. Good luck.

Are You Actually Over Your Ex? 

She loves him. She knows he doesn't deserve this. She keeps going back anyway. This is a confession from inside the mind of a cheat.

"I Love My Boyfriend But I Keep Coming Back To Someone Else's Bed". A Confession From Inside An Affair That's Still Happening

“Sisters before misters” isn’t about friendship vs romance. It’s about refusing to lose yourself when love arrives.


Stop Choosing Between Friends and Love—What “Sisters Before Misters” Really Means 


Is it love or is it a retainer? We sat down with a couple where the boyfriend pays a monthly allowance, just to be his girlfriend. They explained why that's actually not as simple as it sounds.



Life & Love: Is It Love Or A Retainer? Inside A Relationship Built On A Monthly Allowance 


Her husband lied about one thing but that one thing ruined the marriage



My Husband Lied About His D**k. I Ended The Marriage.


Can an open relationship save a struggling relationship? After five years together, my boyfriend and I found out the answer the hard way.

My Boyfriend Wanted an Open Relationship. I Thought It Was Over

It might feel like fun and freedom now. Here are 10 ways sleeping around is quietly wrecking your brain, your hormones, and your future relationships.

10 Ways Womanizing Is Wrecking You, Your Health, and Your Life

Sometimes love is not even the problem. We asked young Nigerians to tell us about the one they walked away from while they were still fully in it.  

Why Did You Leave When You Still Loved Them?

This is a series about the instructions African women were handed before they were old enough to question them, and what it actually costs to follow them. My mother had a whole curriculum for womanhood and sweeping was the foundation. I graduated with distinction. I have questions.

Unlearning Everything My Mother Taught Me About Being A Good Woman Episode 1: "If You Don't Sweep Every Morning, No Man Will Marry You"

I wasn't paranoid. I wasn't insecure. I just needed to understand why Tunde always came first. I was not ready for what I found.

The Reason My Boyfriend Kept Choosing His Homeboy Over Me Was That They Were Knacking

Real signs a man loves you beyond words, consistency, emotional safety, commitment, and the small everyday actions that show genuine relationship investment.

Lagos Men Don’t Always Say “I Love You”  But Here Are 12 Quiet Signs You’re More Than Just a Situation to Him

When your boyfriend's best friend is in love with him and he can't see it, do you say something and become the villain, or say nothing and slowly lose your mind?

My Boyfriend's Female Best Friend Is In Love With Him and He Genuinely Cannot See It

A letter from a man who finally left, finally healed, and finally has something worth saying. 15 things he stayed too long ignoring, written for everyone who has ever convinced themselves that love was supposed to feel this hard.

15 Toxic Things My Girlfriend Did That Ruined Our Relationship

If you have ever wondered what it actually looks like to be married while co-parenting with an ex, the logistics, the tension, the love, the awkward family parties, this is the story nobody was telling.

Living with my husband and co-parenting with my baby daddy—an unfiltered Lagos story

Explore 18 romantic ways to express love with food through simple, thoughtful gestures that make everyday moments meaningful.


18 Romantic Ways to Express Love Through Food


"Stop being polite in bed." Cassy said it. She also lived it. Here's everything she did to fix her sex life after 5 years.


"Stop Being Polite in Bed" — Cassy Tells Us 5 Things She Did to Transform Her Sex Life 

A breakdown of popular relationship advice that may be secretly harming modern relationships and what healthy, intentional love really requires.


The Sweetest Relationship Advice That’s Secretly Ruining Your Love Life


Your relationship might be fine. The question is whether you still are. Take the quiz and find out.

Have You Lost Yourself in Your Relationship? Take This Quiz


He didn’t sleep with another woman, but the betrayal was real. This deeply personal story explores the subtle, often ignored forms of cheating and the painful realisation that emotional disloyalty can hurt just as much as physical infidelity.

He Didn’t Cheat, but I Still Had To Leave

Simping and being a lover boy look identical from the outside. The only difference is whether she said yes. We're unpacking the blurred line between the two and what it says about how we really feel about men who love out loud.


Simping vs Lover Boy: Is There Actually A Difference Or Did We Make That Up?

The breakup was Monday. The crying lasted a week. The glow up took three years. Here are the 7 things I did that made my ex come back begging and why I'm not going back.

I Did These 7 Things And My Ex Came Back Begging

Explore 16 ways to express interest and shoot your shot as a woman without doing too much or appearing desperate.


15 Smart Ways Women Can Shoot Their Shot Without Doing Too Much

Moving out before marriage as a Nigerian daughter is treated like betrayal. Here's why independence is seen as disrespect, the guilt trips you'll hear, and how to have the conversation.

Moving Out of Your Parents' House in Nigeria: The Ultimate Act of Rebellion for Nigerian Daughters

Things women do that annoy their boyfriends but men never say: from "we need to talk" texts to hogging the blanket to asking "do you think she's pretty." The relationship annoyances every couple deals with but nobody talks about.


21 Things Your Boyfriend Finds Annoying But Will Never Admit


You're fighting constantly and wondering if your relationship is dying or just going through a rough patch. Take this honest quiz to find out if it's worth saving or time to let go.


Is Your Relationship Dying Or Are You Just Going Through a Rough Patch?


"Just be yourself" is useless advice when you're anxious at events. Here are real strategies to walk into rooms, handle conversations, and survive social situations without spiraling.