Men will leave you in the desert without water! They'll stain your white and have you questioning your sanity, so pardon us, women, if we’ve become a little obsessed with sniffing out red flags. Honestly, it's about our survival.&nbsp; It's about time we put the days of hurtful heartbreaks that could have been avoided behind us. We’ve gotten so good at spotting red flags. Ghosting? No emotional availability? Can’t apologise properly? Big, blinding red flag. There's barely any time to pause to celebrate the green flags. The calm, steady, emotionally healthy signs remind us that good love actually exists.&nbsp;

It would be an unfair balance if green flags didn't exist, and yes, it's still possible to be in an actual healthy relationship that doesn’t come with drama or stress. Green flags aren’t as loud as red flags. They're the kind of stuff that makes you feel seen, safe and soft in your feminine energy, and sadly, they don't get as much hype as they deserve.&nbsp;

If you're in a relationship, flirting with someone new, in a progressing <a href="https://aura.ng/life-and-love/signs-you-re-in-a-situationship-not-a-real-relationship">situationship</a>, healing from a past relationship, or simply daydreaming about a love that won’t ruin your peace, here are some green flags to pay attention to that deserve the hype. They're quiet, steady, and, honestly, We need to stop excusing the <a href="https://aura.ng/life-and-love/easy-ways-to-keep-a-romantic-relationship-sizzling">bare minimum</a> in a relationship.&nbsp;

Green flags are signs of a positive, healthy and emotionally safe relationship. The solid ground green flags create allows you to invest your time and energy into a relationship without fear. It goes beyond grand gestures and offers consistency, kindness, effort, intentional communication, and emotional security.

The best way to spot these green flags, rather than fixating on the red flags, is to be intentional. Don't rush. When you’re mindful, you start to see the little things that really matter, and when your partner shows up in those ways, give them the flowers they deserve.&nbsp;

Green flags in a relationship that deserve more hype

You can yap on for hours, and they still remember every word? You better hold on to him tight. That’s rare. There’s a big difference between hearing you and actually listening to you. This behaviour is often overlooked but is a very bright green flag. A partner who communicates clearly with you and doesn’t have you overthinking things creates a sense of belonging in a relationship.&nbsp;

You can share your thoughts, concerns, and fears without hesitation, knowing they're always listening attentively. They never leave your texts unread without good reasons, do not hesitate to communicate when they feel bothered, sharing as much as you share with them. If your partner always exhibits this behaviour, give them credit and make sure you listen to them as well.&nbsp;

In a world this chaotic, it's important to be with someone who makes you feel absolutely safe. Not just physically safe but emotionally. It should be non-negotiable. You can’t expect to give your 100% into a relationship with a person who doesn’t give you the security that your heart desires. An empty cup can’t fill another empty cup. A person who always listens to you even at odd hours, never interrupts you, doesn’t get offended when you speak your truth, is emotionally available and will always make you feel safe. In your most vulnerable moments, you don't have to second-guess sharing your concerns or fears with your partner because you know they've got your back. There’s no judgment, just unlimited support. They've created a safe space for you to always be yourself and love in your full potential. This kind of space? That’s where real love grows.

Consistency is underrated. It is one sign you should never overlook. Being consistent with work, plans, and relationships is hard work. Let’s not deny it. I can’t count how many friends I've lost because of my lack of consistency, so when someone is consistent with you, through ups and downs, the good and the bad, you know for a fact. If you can sniff inconsistency from a mile away, you'd better sharpen your nose to sniff out the consistent part. Life is inconsistent, yes, but it's not a good reason not to be consistent. Love should transcend all of life’s difficulties (Excuse the lover girl in me), that being consistent is a no-brainer. They always show up for you, follow through, and their actions always match their words. If your partner doesn’t disappear when stressed or having a hard time, makes room for you even when life is lifing, you’ve found the greenest of all green flags.&nbsp;

A partner who respects your boundaries should be held on to very tightly. Your boundaries will always matter, and a partner who is aware and respects them is a green flag. They know when you need space. They don’t push you into things you’re uncomfortable with. They check in, not check out. It shows how much they care for you, and not just the convenient version for you. And would even go the extra mile to make you happy. This character isn’t an easy one, as it can be challenging, so if your partner respects your boundaries and creates room for our relationship to thrive, it shows they’re emotionally mature.&nbsp;

5. They celebrate and compliment you&nbsp;

Compliments that go beyond how beautiful you look or how amazing you look in that dress and are centred on how proud they are of your achievements, growth, independence, and ambition are a green flag that is not talked about enough. A lot of women believe men are easily intimidated by the independence and success of a woman, which is not far-fetched if you take the accounts of some women’s horror stories with men who shrink when their partner shines. If your partner is in love with you, your mesmerising glow and is not intimidated by your ambition, success, money, and independence, and hypes you loudly, I dare say you have won an amazing partner. A person who celebrates and compliments you without jealousy or silent competition, and is always supportive without disregarding your feelings, is a green flag and deserves the hype.

6. They’re Self-aware and accountable&nbsp;

This green flag is a rare quality and is very important in any relationship. Disagreements are bound to happen in a relationship, and a partner who holds themselves accountable and knows when they’ve done something wrong is a green flag. No excuses, no ego, just accountability for their actions. How a person handles conflicts says a lot about them, and you’ll be surprised by the things you find. A partner who listens to you even in an argument, disagrees with you but still respects you and is aware of their wrongs without shifting the blame or deflecting is a green flag. If you can talk about disagreements in your relationship calmly without a major conflict, and they always own up to their faults, that's a huge win.&nbsp;

In a world that glamorises unnecessary toxicity and struggle love, we don’t praise healthy love enough, and it's sad. If a person treats you right, makes you feel safe and seen, you should give the person the credit they deserve, especially with the multitude of red flags out there. It's important to look out for red flags in a relationship but its also important to recognise the green flags and being able to receive it. It helps you to choose better and be better in your relationships.&nbsp;

It's about time you start sniffing out the green flags in your <a href="https://aura.ng/life-and-love/signs-you-and-your-partner-don-t-have-chemistry">relationships</a>. The peace, consistency, and accountability instead of overanalysing behaviours that make you anxious and leave you confused. Green flags aren't loud because of how special they are, so if your partner shows these signs, please hype them as much as possible. They deserve it and more.

It's important to look out for red flags in a relationship, but it's also important to recognize the green flags and be able to receive them.

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